3 psychological tricks to make your life easy
- Why we don’t change ? Want to do different things, change routines ,habits etc.Ever wondered why our lives never change.Why we don’t get up and jog in the morning while we know it is good.Why we don’t save when we know it is imperative and necessary. The sole reason is availability of options.Mind is amazing and it thinks in the direction you provide it to think.For example you want to start a business but still not able to muster courage for a while.What is the best way? Yes the best way is tough.You have to burn your bridges.You have to quit your day job or at least get a part time job.When you quit and your brain doesn’t have comfort and liberty of job, it is forced to think differently.Our minds works on very low energy and we are always on energy saving mode.When mind has no other options then it will devise ways to do other important things!Same is true for love affairs.Want to get rid of a toxic relationship.Gather courage for a break up and then stick to it.Burn all the bridges which may allow you to go back.Cut all communications.Only then your mind shall think of ‘other’ options.
- Why people change ? : Ever wondered why you lover’s behaviour change as soon as you say yes.Why companies start to behave differently once they ‘catch’ you. It is well established psychological phenomena that even when initial ‘Terms and conditions of contract’ are changed,relationships still work.But why? Because you mind work on conservation of energy principle.Once you have worked so hard mentally to accept and let anyone enter into your life, you do not want to take the pain to leave them as your investment is high.Similarly to chose any services we do a lot of research and then when they change subtle terms and conditions of beginning of the clause, you still stick.Examples
- Service providers : You took the services of mobile provider for pay per second plan. It was a lifetime free offer.But after six months due to ‘prevailing market conditions’ they change it to pay per minute! What do you do ? Usually you stick as the effort to take a new provider is too much.Marketers do this all the time.Remember 160/- per month Tata sky pack with 220 channels ? Yes now they have successfully changes it.Just wait to see this classic ‘bait’ method to work for ‘jio’.This show all promotions work all the time. They attract you with freebies, one time offer, great discount and once you are in, they change it in some time.Another example is 50% off board in all clothing outlets.As you enter, they tell you that off is on select merchandise.Slowly they show you the better expensive items and yes you pay!
- Love (fuck) Jihad/Fuck boys : One more example from ‘bad boys’ tricks.Ever wondered how these ‘nice’ girls are ensnared by ‘jerks’ ? Yes they employ the same method.With their lies about their career, fictitious parental money or whatever,they attract you.With that imaginary personality you fall in love.As soon as you are in their emotional claws and are invested fully (usually physically invested like sex),they show their true colours.Even after you know the truth and consequences, you can’t go back!
- Click bait advertising : Ever read an article (usually from NBT or India TV) having a very tempting heading but a very average content.Yes there comes the power of clickbait advertising.You go for an exciting article or information but after few lines it turns out to be boring but you still complete it.Yes you complete it due to ‘Zeigarnik effect’ in place.Mind hates incomplete tasks and hence the case.You can relate this on some Quora articles also having prolific heading but ugly body!
- Emotional slavery : Every guy can relate to this. Ever followed a girl to death as soon as she ends relationship with you!.Yes girls (and in some cases men) do it all the time.They in emotional outburst of their PMS hormonal cycle or might be getting better options (better boyfriend) or just being emotional, break up with you all of sudden and then don’t allow a come back! Now you are following them like hell! Same happens in one sided love stories or ‘innocent lovers’ love story.So you have a emotional lover.He or she follows you everywhere,doing every possible thing in this world to entice you.And mighty you are just ignoring her/his genuine efforts, taking them for granted and enjoying your own life.One day suddenly this ‘emotional pet’ of yours realises the truth and decides to back off. Now what ? You are following them back like mad.Father they go, desperate you become.Yes this shows that our minds are utterly irrational.You know love is bad and still you stick once these rosy terms and conditions of love are changed to hell!
As they say, never believe you mind in crucial decisions of life.
- Want to say ‘I love you’, don’t wait for too long. Follow you gut feeling and not your irrational rational mind!
- Want to connect to your lover, just do it when it feels right and not when it is ‘strategically optimal’ to retain maximum power in relationship!
Heart meets heart, mind meets mind, ego meets ego.
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