Possessive as ‘protective’ , caring,loving,feeling … yes.

Possessive as if ‘spying’, not trusting,playing unnecessary mind games to gather more power,clinching,holding back to yourself,censoring other relationships or friendships… a big no.

Possessiveness must be like a caretaker and not like a ‘jailer’. Yes you do have certain privileges in love affairs. But in no case you can be authoritative. At most you can be suggestive.

I love you but you are free.