- Initial attraction : 3 seconds (science confirms it).We take about 3 seconds to decide many things about any one.It takes about 15 milliseconds for us to judge anyone as attractive.
- Hide and seek : may go from one week to six months.Depending on many factors like availability, comfort level of each person,envoronment of interaction.May be for couple of days for more extroverted pair.
- Initial rapport establishment :May take from one more week to six months.
- Proposal and relationship : Proposal usually occurs between one month to six month of initial interaction.Mean while mind (fucking ) games are usually employed by females.
Girls have this famous mechanism of attracting and then hanging.Few girls are simple and straight forward enough but other girls want drama and emotion and the love to keep you hanging and keep coming back. No one can decode the real reason of this extra melo drama but usually is falsely attributed to PMS.
But wait… its not over yet!
After proposal and acceptance real game begins.Just after honey moon phase you begin to realise that ‘this cute’ girl is also no different from your earlier girl friends and same happens with girls.He no longer follows you every where, replies your message in 10 seconds, no more good morning texts etc.Similarly she no longer dresses for you specially, no more baby sona messages and it turns out to be pretty ordinary!
But true love is ordinary.It’s not a romantic story with only cool breezes and no hot sun.Love is DIFFICULT. It is really difficult to love the same person all the time with availability of all ‘different’ option (which will again turn out to be a mirage).
Love is acceptance that he will get angry, he may not have best manners all the time, he is a real human being and he is not a superhero.Similary she doesn’t look like a diva always, she has mood swings and she also has normal human tendencies like little greed and lots of envy.
Embrace the normal and love the normal and you find your soulmate.
Get real.
Life Lessons, Love Hacks 