1. Uniqueness : Every one feels that their lover is unique and out of this world.While they might be pretty normal to lot of people.Attribute it to halo effect and choice supportive bias. लैला को देखना है– तो मजनू की नज़र चाहिए (As they say, to see Juliet,you need eyes of Romeo). We are blind (read color blind) towards people we fall in love. Their flaws also become their qualities.
  2. Love is eternal : Indeed love is eternal but lovers experience extreme joy in seeing their loved ones only due to separation. Yes distances makes heart go fondle , indeed. Familiarity does breeds contempt. Hence lovers when marry the same person, find it difficult to maintain the charm. (Another reason to avoid marriages or even commitment). It looks so counter intuitive but so true. Mind loves surprises, a little disenchantment, a little difficulty, a little discomfort. While we feel that the moment they are ours for ever, we shall be eternally happy. But ever heard of a love story which was accomplished ? All love stories are incomplete. No body lives happily ever after. To ignite fire and to keep it running you need fuel of distance (space). Test : Do you love those who ignore you ( a little) or whom you can’t see for long more or less ? Mind and heart are two diametrically opposite organ.What ever seems reasonable to mind is illogical for heart!. Now you see the conflict in dating world getting real!
  3. Love gives you eternal bliss : No,nah…biggest lie.Love indeed gives you eternal bliss but only after the end of relationship phase.Before that it is purely jealousy,fights,insecurity,ego clash,spying,trust issues,mind games,power struggle (the one who is least (seems least) interested holds maximum power logic!). If you survive that phase of so called # relationship and enter the real love, then indeed it is bliss. 90% couples never see that day, sadly enough.When ego melts,transforms into love,when no excuses and mind game are required,that extreme stage of pure love is bliss.I often say, two become one and then that one becomes love only. Very difficult to melt your ego though. This is what is called enlightenment. Love is absence of fear of getting naked in front of your partner in all senses. No make up either physically or mentally must be on place.
  4. Other side of fence is always greener : Yes other couples seem to live in bliss and your relationship seems rocking. No. Absolute lie. Every body is living the same hell!. If you feel that their girl/boy friend is living deity,wake up baby,it is never the case!. Strangely couples feel the same for singles what the singles feel about couples!.
  5. New partner/better partner myth : So you old partner was egoistic,boring or what ever and this new toy is sexy! huh! They all are same because we all are same at least on emotional level. Your sexy girl friend is not going to give you blow job ever! She is a human and so is your new dude boy friend!. We thrive for emotions.Sex and material aspect are only 5–6 % of relationship. They do well in screening good partners but empathy,patience,genuineness score too high later on. Hence unless you learn to be compassionate and more empathetic with high EQ,every relationship shall turn out to be same.
  6. My girl/boy friend is all innocent myth! : Yes we again are blinded by the very fact that love is color blind. Your so called ‘all innocent’ girl friend is more bitchy than you ever imagined and know far more mind games than you can ever think of. Similarly you all ‘nice guy look alike’ boy friend is much more flirty outside your spy network! We are often too soft and wonderful for people we love. We are selectively less lethal and rude. Its a stark reality and is unveiled only after nasty break up!

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