Marriage,love,relationships,girl/boy friend never makes you happy or complete.Relationships can compliment your life, add a bit more spice to your already happy and healthy life.

If you are unhappy before relationship, you shall continue to be unhappy once the honeymoon phase is over.

Yes love changes people. But at least one of you must be complete enough to cater to other one. We all need (read crave) love. But love is NOT a magic pill to solve all your problems. Love can compliment your life, help to achieve goals, motivate to do bigger things in life.

Mathematically, if you are 80% happy by yourself, then love can help you achieve other 20%. But if you are 20% happy, love cannot supplement other 80%.

Love is complimentary and NOT supplementary. You must have a social circle, life of your own to enjoy being in love.

Last point, we do not market ourselves for love. It happens, out of sudden, impromptu,without warnings or signs. Love is some thing which can’t be cultivated or stopped.We can form relationships but love is sprouted out of nowhere.

Ghalib sums it well

इश्क पर ज़ोर नहीं है ये वो आतिश “ग़ालिब”

जो लगाये न लगे और बुझाये न बने

– मिर्ज़ा ग़ालिब

Translation : Love is an uncontrollable fire,It cannot be started on a whim, and cannot be extinguished if you try.

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Hemant Pandey
Hemant lives in Mumbai (India),writes on Quora (2600 followers, 2.8 million views).Published 5 books on Amazon Kindle. Entrepreneur, Writer, Mathematician, Professor.