Sadly wife and girlfriends are not same for most men.
For girlfriend men like smart,progressive, modern, independent,sexy, out going, party loving,presentable,extrovert,extremely good looking girl.
For wife (long term relationship), men prefer simple,humble,well mannered,innocent,faithful,cultured,a bit traditional,bit homely,bit silent,slightly introverted,a bit emotionally dependent,devoted girl.
You see how adjectives change from flashy to warm.
A hotel is flashy but a home is elegant.
Things are essentially same but the order of preference change.