If you can be calm in both adversity and prosperity equally, nothing can affect you. You enjoy your life, earn money or do whatever but never get attached to it. Your happiness, your inner bliss must be independent of circumstances, environment and your social conditions.
Above every skill like
- Hard Work
- Positive attitude
- Steel determination
and thousands more, I found only only the skills which can be called a true life skill.
What is that ?
I call this skill as ‘detachment’ or ability to remain ‘indifferent’ to result.
If you can be calm in both adversity and prosperity equally, nothing can affect you.You enjoy your life, earn money or do what ever but never get attached to it.Your happiness, your inner bliss must be independent of circumstances,environment and your social conditions.
This is the true life skill which has be taught since ages by Buddha, to Osho.
- Money gives you happiness, lack/loss of it shall produce double the pain.
- Your girlfriend is the reason that you smile, she will be the cause of your despair later in life.
- Your career is your only happiness, loss of it will cause immense pain.
You see, happiness and sadness are two sides of same coin!
What ever make you happy has the ability to inflict equal pain.
Make happiness your basic nature.
Thus remaining unaffected in every weather in life is true bliss.
If any other skill other than this can be summed up, then that will be ‘ability to focus’ on your core job without thinking of the results. You will never need any of the skills listed in the beginning if you can master this.
Let me illustrate that with a relevant example from Quora.
Suppose there is a new writer and he writes his answers with a purpose of getting up votes and suppose he doesn’t get those in his first 100 answers, what will he do ? If his motivation was fame, recognition,up votes etc. he will get disheartened and will stop writing. Right?
Let us take my approach. If my purpose is to write and never count my results but only efforts, I shall continue to write irrespective of views,up votes,validation,followers etc. Who do you think has greater chance of success ?
Two points for all aspiring writers
- Write for yourself and not for any one else.Only measure your efforts and never count your results.Your job is to write.Write and go to sleep.You write because you love to write and not because of ‘Ego’ boost due to up votes.Same thing Osho says.1000 up votes shall not pump you and 0 up votes shall not bother you.Remain ‘indifferent’ to out come.This is what is true essence of Geeta.Read in three languages.
Once there was a great painter.Unfortunately his paintings were never sold.His brother was a rich businessman.He thought to purchase some of the paintings of his brother via third party secretly.
He sent his manager, disguised as a sailor and asked him to buy all paintings at the maximum possible rate.His manager went and did as he was told to do.The painter was unmoved and said ‘Take whatever you want’.Manager was amused and said ‘Aren’t you happy that at last all your paintings are sold now and that too with good price?’
Painter replied ‘I derive my happiness while making my paintings.I get whatever I want by doing the job itself, rest is secondary.’ This is the essence for every writer,artist, craftsman or whoever.
The joy is (must be) in the process and not in results.
What single change in your daily routine had the biggest impact on your life?