Apart from being intelligent, having good manners, table and social etiquette,good conversationalist, having sense of humor, a bit successful, having social skills,I rate three extra qualities for absolutely adorable person.

  1. Originality
  2. Empathy
  3. Simplicity (Short term ego memory)
  • Originality : You must be original.It’s okay to be a bit shy, a bit weird, a bit short tempered (only a bit though) or a bit cunning, but be original. Your behavior must be consistent in all wakes and forms of life. People hate selective behavior.Your originality is valued and loved.I hate those people (actually dislike as hate is a strong word) who behave nicely (means too nicely or diplomatic), just to please people all the time. World can sense your submission. People like gutsy people. If I like some one, I will say it without sugarcoating and drama.Confidence is sexy.
  • Empathy : Next comes the most sought of quality in a long term partner/friend/relationship. It is empathy. You must have nerve and ability to feel pain and pleasure of other people. I care not how wonderful/beautiful/intelligent you are. If you can’t feel the ‘feelings’, all is vain.Humans survived tough times only because of empathy and social helping attitude and not because of their mind.Whatever we have is achieved till date is due to extensive knowledge sharing.
  • Simplicity (Short term ego splash) : We love original people, we love sensitive people but we are actually pissed off by ‘over sensitive’ people. If someone is taking extra pretense (just for show off) on any trivial issue, it becomes utterly disgusting.Adorable people have short term memory for ego issues. We love simple people from whom we can expect rational behavior (read predictable). I do not want a friend who leaves a movie in between since I couldn’t get their favorite coke flavor!. You can recall your only those best friend now who were utterly simple.

What makes a person happy without love?


Hemant Pandey
Hemant lives in Mumbai (India),writes on Quora (2600 followers, 2.8 million views).Published 5 books on Amazon Kindle. Entrepreneur, Writer, Mathematician, Professor.