Usually not. The dimensions must be different.
You can love more than two people at a time. For example your parents or siblings. You may not live without anyone in your life.
But romantically speaking, it is difficult (Still not impossible).
The scenarios are
- You love one girl (Assuming you are a guy) of her nature and other for her physical aspect.
- You might love a girl for her attitude but hate her for her body.
Many other scenarios are there. In any case that is not true love. True love happens when you meet and accept some one for what she is and not for what you expect her to be.
Love means , that I accept you (Love you) for what ever you are; and not for whatever I imagine about a perfect girl. No one is perfect and no one is complete. Obviously you complete them and they complete you.
Essence of true love is complete surrender of your self into the other. You and she do not remain two but become one. If two = one, where is the space for one more ?
In today’s era of shallow emotions and media hype, we are being pre programmed, not to love anybody completely. We hear breakups but never hear about eternal love stories. Controversy sells.
Bottom line : If you are in ‘love’ with many people at a time, it’s time to continue exploring, since ‘Love is a back ground score’; Its continuous and is for 24 hours a day. If it’s not like that, then you haven’t met your soul mate.
PS : Don’t confuse love with current dating,mating, separating sequence. Dating and relationship is a social requirement (I am not against it). But love takes time to develop. You need to accept the other person with all his flaws and to know all flaws, you need time.
We usually present our best self in front of our love interest. But in moments of anguish, our inner self comes out. Thus love needs time to fulfil.
Now a days the love equation is as follows
- Time required to fall in love = 10 min.
- Start dating = In one week.
- Enjoying each others company = 4 weeks.
- Fights = 2 weeks.
- Patch up time period = 2 weeks.
- Final fight = 1 week.
- Break up tears = Two weeks (Max)
- New girl friend/ boy friend = Repeat step one.
With every break up you become strong and hence your problem solving capacities are improved and hence time interval reduces!
Is it love ?
A child takes 9 months to just come out of womb and is still incapable. Love needs time. It’s certainly not a part-time job.