There are phases in any relationships and there are boundaries for every phase.

Phase 1 : Acquaintance Phase :Initial phases when we are not too sure about our partner’s behaviour pattern and friend circle we ought to be cautious.If my partner is ‘jealous’ and ‘suspecting’ by nature then I must avoid those things which may raise an unwanted suspicion and can make relationship ‘difficult’. In the initial phases love is very fragile and there are more chances of spark dying because of ‘invisible’ and ‘non existent’ suspicions!

I have seen many couples just leaving the hope in the initial stages only because their prospective girl/boy friend was ‘too’ friendly with some of their friends.[pullquote]Suspicion is very much necessary in the beginning of an relationship.We suspect ONLY those whom we find compatible.[/pullquote]

Suspicion is very much necessary in the beginning of an relationship.We suspect ONLY those whom we find compatible. Suspecting requires investing a lot of resources and energy. Hence if someone suspects my behaviour and keeps a tab on me implies she is interested in long term partnership and NOT short term flick.

Take away : In the beginning some sacrifices are necessary to make other person comfortable.

Phase 2 : Relationship phase : Once two people are in a relationship and after some comfort is established and personality traits of each other are well known, then these kind of ‘tapping’ and ‘suspecting’ amounts to cruelty. What is acceptable and was is NOT must be clearly stated and discussed beforehand and ‘one to one’ basis. If I don’t like my girl liking other guys pictures on Instagram or FB or anywhere, I must state it clearly. If it hurts me then it hurts me!. If she can’t sacrifice a few things for me, I think it’s not worth continuing!

Well it is an extreme case but if someone’s basic nature is like that then ‘it must be either respected else rejected!’.[pullquote]we completely know each other , in and out. We even know each other’s reactions and phrases.We can understand  the mood of our partner without saying a single word. In this phase the two become one.[/pullquote]

Phase 3 : Soul mate phase : Very few relationships reach to this phase. In this phase we completely know each other , in and out. We even know each other’s reactions and phrases.We can understand  the mood of our partner without saying a single word. In this phase the two become one. No rules are needed in this phase. Lovers are inseparable in this phase , not even by death.

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