Heart breaks do not exist. Hear breaks are not painful either.

[pullquote] Love is giving, doing your part and letting go. Just like love between a child and his/her mother.[/pullquote]

What is painful is the ‘hurt’ on your ego. If you love someone unconditionally, from where heartbreak creep in ?

Love is giving, doing your part and letting go. Just like love between a child and his/her mother.

Heartbreak is basically thrashing of ‘ego’ How could she leave YOU ? It hurts because your self esteem is at stake and has nothing to do with love. She was your validation and you were feeling ecstatic while in love. You were feeling good about yourself. Now she is gone and YOUR ego is disheartened!

Love can never be undone, only validation can be undone. All the girls I have loved in my life never broke up with me or did I. Because if you love from your heart how can you undo love ?

If she is not with you and it hurts means love was not selfless. But yes that selfless state in love comes after a fairly long time. May be yours was just an attachment loaded with ego laden validation.

Let me give a test of love for all, whether it is true or not.

  • Do you think before calling/messaging them that
    • Your value aka power will go down if you do this ?
    • Or he/she might be busy ?
    • He or she might piss you off ?
    • They might not pick your call ?
  • Can you meet them in your pajama you wear at your place ? Do you need to ‘dress up’ for them in the fear that you might lose them?
  • Do you prepare your talk before you meet them? Do you think of stuff about what to say to impress them ?
  • Are you suspicious about them having other affairs ?
  • Do you suspect them about cheating behind your back ?
  • Do you feel that they are below or above your league ?

Congratulations you are in a relationship but not love.

[pullquote]Love is natural, it flows. No mind games and tricks and seduction methods are at all required if both partners are mature and understanding. Unfortunately this is not always the case.[/pullquote]

Love is intense,deep and solacing. Think about your mother now or your close sibling or may be best friend. Now ask all those questions about them . Do you feel the difference ?

Love is natural, it flows. No mind games and tricks and seduction methods are at all required if both partners are mature and understanding. Unfortunately this is not always the case.

Till the time you are testing waters, checking compatibility, building rapport, understanding each other etc. , you will be manipulative. This stage of love is the relationship phase. Real love never starts for 99% of couples!

[pullquote]We think we are very smart. We can manipulate people easily and play with their emotions with our psychological methods or seduction . But have you ever wondered that the girl/boy who is under your spell and becoming emotional for you is not that stupid in real world. They love you and you are using their love against them![/pullquote]

PS : If your partner loves you and you are also attracted to them but feel that they are emotional fools , are too sensitive and vulnerable and you can down play them and use them, again you are NOT in love!

We think we are very smart. We can manipulate people easily and play with their emotions with our psychological methods or seduction . But have you ever wondered that the girl/boy who is under your spell and becoming emotional for you is not that stupid in real world. They love you and you are using their love against them!

Love is blind. Love is like a OCD if not reciprocated well. It intensifies with time and that is the toughest part. Nothing special in any one. It’s only love which makes everyone goes fondle. Unfortunately no one can define why they love someone or how and when they fell in love. Love is strange, logic less and unstoppable.

Better be aware next time for your emotions and keep a check on them. Awareness meditation really helps us to stop falling in love.

Make a point of never investing more than anyone else into any relationship. Your investment hurts and not love or heartbreak.

https://hemantpandeyblog.com/2018/03/09/what-is-the-most-memorable-thing-someone-has-told-you-during-a-break-up/